I'm never sure how much of what's in the papers is actually true
, but I've just been reading that the prep school Prince George is to attend "discourages" best friends - a story picked up by a lot of the papers - and I couldn't help thinking that EBD would approve
. Best friends within a gang, like Mary-Lou and Verity or Vi and Barbara, are OK, and groups of three are OK in CS-land, but not exclusive best friends. Mary-Lou gives someone a talk on the importance of sharing friends, and we're clearly meant to disapprove of Simone wanting Joey to be her "amie intime". Margot and Emerence are probably the only two BFFs amongst the main characters.
In a lot of other school stories, the girls are paired off into best friends. I can see the argument that it's better to have lots of friends rather than focus on one (especially as my childhood BFF dumped me when we got to the VIth form), but, IME, it's more typical to have pairs of best friends than groups of three or four. You can get all sorts of issues at school with gangs and cliques and people who get completely left out, but I'm not sure that that's always due to having best friends. What happens in Jane
, when a gang led by a dominant person turns on one person and bullies them, is a typical school problem, and that's nothing to do with exclusive friendships. But exclusive friendships can get quite intense and it can be very difficult if they break down - as happened with Elizabeth Arnett and Betty Wynne-Davies, although unfortunately we don't actually see that.
Do people think that EBD disapproved of "best friends"?