My elder sister has recently married, and I couldn't be happier for her - especially since her husband has welcomed both me and my younger sister into his home. But at the same time, I can't help but notice he always has to be right - and my sister keeps caving in to him, too! She's always been very assertive and independent, and I want to let her know that I think she's changing for the worse - but I don't want her to think I dislike her husband! H E L P!
I suspect you'll find that your sister isn't really caving into your brother-in-law: she's just letting him think she is. If you watch her closely, you might see a lot of raised eyebrows and secret smiles. Try it yourself - talk about subjects which you know more about than he does and, when he tries to make out that he's an expert on them, just have a quiet chuckle to yourself at his expense. At the same time, I'd keep an eye on him, just to make sure that he isn't slipping anything into your sister's food or drink that might be causing any sort of personality changes.
My mother died when I was very young, and, when I was in my early teens, my father got married again, to my best friend's mother. I was delighted about it at the time, but now I'm finding that my friend/sister by marriage is taking over my life and making everyone think that I'm useless and can't do anything for myself. I don't want to hurt her, but it's not very nice being treated like this. What can I do? V