Since Finn hasn't posted anything and no-one has stepped into the breach, I hope no-one minds me providing the Chaletian's forsaken advice column with a new letter. If anyone does mind, just ignore it.
I recently got engaged to a doctor on the Platz. Word of his feelings for me got out and became common knowledge - much to our chagrin - but now he is getting the blame for this and a lot of people are saying that it was not very nice of him to speak to everyone except me about it. May I point out the unfairness of this? I was the first and only person he spoke to, and neither of us have the slightest idea how the rumours got out. He was a bit nervous about getting into a relationship with me without talking to my parents, because he comes from a society where girls get into trouble all the time for getting entangled with men their parents don't approve of. So, we had a discussion about it and he suggested that he should go and talk to my father and try and square it with him. I think that it was very nice of him to do everything he could to avoid a possible row for me. However, the fact that he went to see Papa also got out, and this was misinterpreted as him going to see Papa over my head so that the two of them could decide on my future without taking what I want into account. Another irritating rumour is that my mother pushed me into this. Yes, she has a lot of influence, but this is my whole future, not to mention his, that we are talking about, and when it comes to big, serious matters like this, she simply isn't the pushing type. I do wish people would stop judging. He's quite a bit older than me, old enough to know what he wants his future to look like, and people seem to think that I'm inexperienced and easily taken in because I've only just left school.
However, you will be pleased to hear (I hope!) that we both got our happy ending: after teetering on the brink of a relationship for a couple of years, he proposed to me, and I was delighted to accept. As soon as I've got my diploma, I'm going to marry him and I can't wait! But whoever is putting a negative spin on all this is trying to ruin things even now! Everyone is nodding and winking at me, and saying that as soon as I head off to university, I'll meet other men, and I'll enjoy the freedom and I'll realise that I simply can't marry him. I think that, if that would happen, I would feel something wrong about this engagement, but really, I can think of nothing better than to spend my life married to him - and it's not like married women still have to give up everything to cook and clean and raise the kids - ooh, kids! I love children! I can't wait to start a family! But all these people are really getting to me - and to my fiancé as well - and I wish I knew what to do about them - my name can't be mentioned any more without some reference to this, and he's become the most hated man on the Platz! I wish that people could see that this is not a case of "creepy older man uses other people's influence to bully, push and trap innocent schoolgirl who can't think for herself into an engagement and destroy her future". I'm scared of what they'll all say when the wedding takes place and they all realise that I'm actually going to do this, or when I get busy. I've spoken to my mother and she says that when she got engaged, she felt wildly, blissfully happy, and I feel weighed down by all this gossip, and I can't really be happy unless they all shut up and learn to mind their own business. What should I do - and don't say "Ignore them", because that is very much easier said than done, it is nigh on impossible when it is flung up in your face every minute if every day.
I apologise for the length of this rant - like my sister, I have a temper, but unlike my sister, I have enough self-control not to lose face in public and smash things up, so I have to work off my anger in other ways.
That was brought on by re-reading all the splendiferous letters - both problems and responses - in this thread and noticing that there were quite a few anti-Len & Reg ones, there were no pro-Len/Reg ones.
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